A Course In Weight Loss

• July 10, 2013 • Comments (3)


All of us wish we’d had perfect childhoods, with a mother and father who modeled ideal parental attitudes and taught us to internalize the tenets of self-love. Many of us, however, did not. Perhaps you grew up with no one to model for you that you were truly valuable, that your thoughts were appreciated, that your feelings deserved tending to, or that your worth was deeply appreciated. And whatever was modeled—positive or negative—became the model for your relationship with your adult self. That is simply how adult personas form.

If you were neglected as a child, you learned to neglect yourself as an adult. If you were betrayed as a child, you learned to betray yourself as an adult. If you were unappreciated as a child, you grew up with a lack of self-appreciation. If no one cared about your feelings as a child, you didn’t know how to care for your own feelings once you became an adult. Maybe on some level your parents weren’t there for you; and now, in the moment when you overeat, you simply repeat the pattern by failing to be there for yourself.
Or your parent or parents might have loved you very much yet simply lacked the psychological tools to help you build an emotionally healthy relationship with yourself. It’s only recently, in historical terms, that society has even considered the possibility that children have valuable thoughts of their own. Looking back into your childhood isn’t about figuring out whom you can blame, or building a case to justify feelings of victimization. It’s simply about identifying your wound so the medicine of love can be applied correctly.

A way to repair a broken childhood is to allow God to re-parent you. As a child, you had no choice but to depend on your parents’ love . . . and where it was twisted or absent, you suffered accordingly. Yet now you are no longer a child, and can redo your childhood by remembering Whose child you truly are. By seeing that you are a child of God—by recognizing the unwavering love and mercy He extends to you every moment of the day—you begin to realign your attitudes toward yourself with His attitudes toward you. You no longer need to model anyone’s neglect of you; you need only model God’s love for you.

As you reestablish the divine connection that was severed by any harshness in your childhood, your mind begins to move away from thoughts that weaken you and instead think thoughts that strengthen you. You will learn to be there for yourself, and in a moment when you are there for yourself, you simply don’t want to behave self-destructively. It won’t be so hard to commit to right eating once you’ve recommitted to yourself. It will be natural. Appetites that reflect an unloving attitude toward yourself will simply fall by the wayside, like leaves in autumn when their season is done.

This is a recommitment in that you were born with your connection to your true self intact; while the connection was broken in your experience, it was never broken in the Mind of God. In Alcoholics Anonymous, there is reference to “conscious contact.” Your contact with the Divine is still there; it is simply no longer conscious. And by bringing it back into full awareness, you will reconnect with it experientially. Like a plug that has dropped to the floor, your sense of self needs to be plugged back into the socket that provides its energy.

Grounded in our divine nature, every human being tends naturally toward connection, creativity, and joy. Such is the natural flow of the human experience, just as the bud flows naturally into the fullness of a rose blossom. The difference between you and the rose is that, as a human being, you have a choice as to whether or not to let your blossoming occur. If the rosebud were somehow able to deny the blossom the right to emerge, then what would happen to the energy that would have turned into a blossom? Is it uncreated? Does it go away? No, because energy cannot be uncreated.
When a natural flow of energy is denied, it turns into a kind of backward flow, or implosion of identity. You are then tempted to misdirect your creative passion. One thing you surely do is project your passion onto food; another thing you might do is project it onto other people.
If you deny yourself your own passion, your own path, your own longing, your own drama, your own life force, your own truth—then you’re tempted to live vicariously through those who allow themselves theirs. Your creative energy has got to go somewhere, even if it is projected onto others. You’re tempted to live a life of fantasy if you deny yourself a life of truth.

It’s an easy path from a whole box of chocolates to immersion in the latest tabloid, from denying yourself your own drama to drinking in the drama of others. But it’s not as though others were programmed for exciting lives and you weren’t. For whatever reason, some people were simply not blocked in childhood the way that you were. They can more easily allow themselves to experience the natural, creative drama of their own lives.
Think of the person whose life you look at and secretly think, Oh, I wish that were my life. Now imagine yourself in kindergarten with that individual. Use your inner eye to face the truth here, and you will see that at the age of five, he or she had nothing on you. You came into this life with the same creative energy and the same divine programming that everyone else has. And you still have it; it’s simply backed up, taking anti-expression in the form of excess flesh.
But all that can stop now. A valve that has been closed can now be reopened. A dam that has been built can now be taken down. A habit—and that is all it is: a bad mental habit—can be unlearned and replaced by your natural, spiritual impulse to go forth into the world and create the good, the true, and the beautiful for yourself and others.

You should be committed to yourself because God is committed to you. How else but through the thoughts that naturally emerge within you can He impress Himself upon your soul? In listening to yourself, you’re tuning in to the vibrations of Spirit that are the natural communication of the Creator with the created.

God doesn’t have a plan for Miss America, but not for you. God doesn’t have a plan for some movie star, but not for you. There is a natural, divine, and holy architecture by which each and every person’s life is programmed for the highest level of creativity and goodness and truth. There are roses and daisies and peonies and violets, all very different but all very beautiful. Nature sees each of us as expressions of itself, and to accept that expression, to honor the natural flow of your own thoughts and feelings, is not just a gift you give yourself—it is your responsibility to the Divine.

ACIWL-bookTry to forgive those who in their ignorance sought to block your truth, whether five minutes ago or 40 years ago. And try to forgive yourself for all the years you have failed to listen to yourself. When you grasp excessively for anything in this world—and for you that happens to be food—you deny what is trying to emerge from deep within you. Failing to experience what is supposed to happen—your own internal communion with self—you are thrown into an awful, primordial void, bereft by what feels like the absence of your Creator. You don’t really mean to be grasping for food. You mean to be grasping for God. And there is only one way to do that. You cannot find Him except where He lives. And He lives in you.



– From A COURSE IN WEIGHT LOSS, by Marianne Williamson

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Marianne Williamson is an internationally acclaimed spiritual author and lecturer. Six of her ten published books have been New York Times Best Sellers. Four of these have been #1 New York Times Best Sellers. A Return to Love is considered a must-read of The New Spirituality. A paragraph from that book, beginning "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure..." is considered an anthem for a contemporary generation of seekers. Marianne's other books include The Age of Miracles, Everyday Grace, A Woman's Worth, Illuminata, Healing the Soul of America, A Course in Weight Loss, and The Gift of Change. Her newest book, THE LAW OF DIVINE COMPENSATION: On Work, Money and Miracles, was published in November 2012 by Harper Collins. She has been a popular guest on television programs such as Oprah, Larry King Live, Good Morning America and Charlie Rose. Marianne is a native of Houston, Texas. In 1989, she founded Project Angel Food, a meals-on-wheels program that serves homebound people with AIDS in the Los Angeles area. Today, Project Angel Food serves over 1,000 people daily. Marianne also founded the Department of Peace Campaign, a grass roots campaign to establish a United States Department of Peace. In December 2006, a NEWSWEEK magazine poll named Marianne Williamson one of the fifty most influential baby boomers. According to Time magazine, "Yoga, the Cabala and Marianne Williamson have been taken up by those seeking a relationship with God that is not strictly tethered to Christianity."

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  1. Well said, it is the best way to explain one, how to loss weight or stay healthy..

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  3. Marie Jameson says:

    I love Marianne xx

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